Choices: Black, White & Grey. Is there really a Grey choice?

Many years ago, in DDLJ, Raj Malhotra tells a hassled Simran that his mother used to say, "Beta, zindagi ke har mod pe tumhe do raste milenge ek galat aur ek sahi. Galat rasta asaan hoga, tumhe apni taraf kheenchega. Aur jo sahi rasta hoga, ho sakta hai usmein tumhe kadi mushkilon ka samna karna pade, bahut taklif mile; par yaad rakhna akhir mein jeet tumhari hi hogi."

So true. Life throws us daily curveballs. Which way we choose to dodge them, catch them or throw them back is a choice we make. Life is full of choices and not making a choice is also a choice. 

I've spent a lot of time discussing other peoples lives and circumstances and while each situation, person, journey is unique the choices are often the same - between right and wrong, between good or bad, between black or white. Add some justifications, circumstantial situations, ifs and buts to the mix and suddenly there's a rainbow of greys. But are these really greys or are they just blacks disguised by our own misgivings which we refuse to see with our own eyes? 

Often burdened with fear or anger, driven by guilt or revenge, we choose to choose that which isn't best for ourselves but what we believe someone else deserves. And then we justify it - so having an affair because your husband does'nt love you is ok; hating and abusing your boss because she is mean to you is justifiable; eating a kilo of chips fills up a vacuum because you are depressed is acceptable; even staying married to a man who is with someone else for ensuring his torture is deemed as reasonable! 

Your inner compass can tell you whether what you're doing is good or bad. Your body will send you messages to let you know whether something your doing feels good or bad. Your conscience knows the difference between right and wrong. With the greys, the case is almost similar - you just know. And life somehow sends you the same situation, in many different forms, until you lift the veil off your eyes and pick what's true for you.

The lesson is simple. There ain't any greys. There's a black and a white. And then there's your choice. No one said it was going to be easy. You just know it'll always be worth it.